New Mum anxiety is one of those things that can creep up on you, and then suddenly rear it’s ugly head when you least expect it, and it usually happens at the worst possible time too.
You’ve kept your cool so far with everyone that has been desperate to see your newborn, but when the 964123 person takes your baby out of your arms and starts walking around the house with them, you just want to scream. New Mum anxiety sucks, but it’s something that we all experience.
That feeling of wanting to protect our tiny new babies from the world can sometimes be overwhelming.
I think every parent is protective of their children, but is there a point where it becomes too much, or is it just a case of other people making us feel like we’re doing it wrong?
New Mum anxiety and becoming increasingly more protective
This is something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately, due to becoming increasingly more protective of my son, the older he gets. He is now 9 months old and I don’t like to be away from him for any length of time.
When I’m at work, or away from him for whatever reason, I’m always wondering what he’s up to and if he’s ok. I have to fight the urge to text or call the person he’s with to see if he’s ok, to see if he’s had a nap or to see if he’s had his breakfast.
Can I hold him?
I’ve never liked other people holding him, especially people that I don’t see that often. I’m always sitting there watching just waiting to take him back. I don’t like other people doing the things for him that I should be, and want to be doing. I want to be the one to change his nappy, bath him, feed him
New Mum anxiety and going back to work
The feelings have become a lot worse since I went back to work. I now have to spend 5 hours a day, 4 days a week away from my son, and I hate it. Everything in me is telling me I should be at home with him, I should be feeding him, playing with him, taking him out to baby groups or on walks, and it hurts me that I can’t do those things.
He gets to spend those 4 days a week at home with his Daddy, which I’m happy and grateful for and I’m glad he has one parent who is able to stay at home – I’d just prefer it if it was me
Being at home
I don’t want to become the ‘overprotective’ mother that doesn’t want to let her child out of her sight and wraps him up in cotton wool, but I also don’t want to waste time doing other things when I could be with my boy.
I want to see his first steps and hear his first words, I want to teach him how to read and how to write, I want to play with him and take him out for adventures. I want to do everything and not miss out on any of those precious moments.
Am I overprotective, or is it just new Mum anxiety?
Does this make me overprotective? The fact that I’ll watch you like a hawk when you’re holding my baby and wish you’d give him back? The fact that I don’t want anyone to do any of the ‘parenting’ things with him because that’s my job? The fact that I don’t want anyone to babysit so me and Aeron can have ‘time to ourselves’ because I don’t actually want to go out without him?
Maybe yes, but I also believe that it’s a natural part of being a mother.
The ups and downs of new Mum anxiety
I was the one that went through a very tough and emotional 9 months where I had health problems and suffered from
A mother’s love
I’m his mother, and to
I want to be the one that he comes to when he cries. I want to be the one who feeds
It’s ok to be protective
It’s ok to be a little bit overprotective. It’s our mother’s instinct to want to protect our children and keep them close to us, especially when they’re so little and we’re still trying to establish a bond and a routine, but other people need to understand that too.
If someone has held them for a little bit too long, don’t be afraid to ask for them back. If someone doesn’t do things the way you want them to be done, don’t be afraid to say something. Stick up for yourself and your children.
Don’t be afraid
Give other people time with them, but don’t be afraid to set a few boundaries. Being a parent is the most amazing feeling in the world, don’t be afraid to be a little bit selfish. You deserve it!
Have you suffered from new Mum anxiety? Or did you feel like you were too overprotective with your newborn? Let me know how you coped with it below.
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